No man has the right to tell another what to read or with whom they may talk. That was performed many years ago in the name of Roman Catholicism as they sought to maintain control and uniformity. Is this the leadership we desire? God says to “be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason for the hope that is in you with meekness and fear” (1 Peter 3:15).
While some elders would not endorse this practice of “rule”, impressions are left by memberships who think they need the approval of the elders before they can invite their brethren for a study or a singing. In some cases, elders have objected to such gatherings saying that there must be oversight of an eldership. If shepherds have concerns, such as the treatment of a withdrawn member at such gatherings or other concerns that affect our private lives, they should be quick to admonish or remind brethren. We would expect shepherds to lead us in such concerns and readily submit to the truth being taught. But, to seize such control as would discourage Bible study and the worship of saints in private homes is an error of the gravest sort. This is reminiscent of the Sanhedrin who commanded the apostles to quit teaching in the name of Jesus (Acts 4:18; 5:28). They, too, had extended beyond the bounds of their authority and the proper response is not to say, “Yes, sir. Whatever you say, sir.” Rather, we should offer the same biblical response that was given by Peter, “We cannot but speak the things which we have seen and heard” (Acts 4:20) and “we ought to obey God, rather than men” (Acts 5:29).